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Charlotte and Freddie
The full story from Charlotte's perspective is on the website. You can also find more information about all their bereavement support: https://freddieswish.org/about/
(Text from Freddie's Wish website) Freddie's Wish is a registered charity with love at it's heart, wanting to help those who have lost a child of any age and offer support and care when needed.
This charity has been set up because my son, Freddie, was sadly taken from us in a tragic car accident in December 2014. Not long after I said my last goodbyes, I desperately wanted to seek help from other people that felt this intense emotional and physical pain I was feeling, but no one seemed to be willing to help me.
(Charlotte's words) Freddie's Wish aims to educate healthcare professionals and wider society in the importance of offering proactive support to bereaved parents to help them through the darkest of times. We will also signpost bereaved relatives towards support that may be relevant to their specific circumstances or provide support to the family directly.
We are partnered with MDD First Aid to help fund first aid courses for parents/carers to give them the knowledge and skills to potentially save their child's life. Sadly, Freddie ultimately lost his brave battle but the CPR administered by his Dad at the scene of the accident gave us all time to say our goodbye's to him. This proves that doing something in an emergency first aid situation is always better than doing nothing!
We are proud to be fully funding a bereavement support service across Warwickshire in partnership with Helen at Safe Space which is provided for free to parents who have lost a baby or child from the moment of conception with no upper age limit. We offer a more immediate short term bereavement support offering for those who are bereaved less than 2 years and for after 2 years we have a more comprehensive bereavement counselling option. These sessions are free to those who need it and work out at an approximate cost of £45 per session to Freddie's Wish.
We are also very proud to work with Grief Chat to provide an online chat at-need support service for those in need of immediate one off bereavement support, this service is delivered by bereavement counsellors and is available on our website from 9-9 Monday to Friday. Each chat costs Freddie's Wish approximately £25.
If you feel you can help us in our aims, please contact us via firstname.lastname@example.org
Read Sara's story in her own words below:
"I grew up on a council estate in Nuneaton. I have 2 grown up children aged 18 and 21. Aged 36 I decided to get fit and started running. I went along to my first event parkrun and was immediately hooked. I later joined a running club and discovered a love of running much longer distances. Before lockdown I decided to enter an ironman event and soon started my training. Training was going well then lockdown hit and races and parkrun were all cancelled. Once things started to ease, the news was that the event I had entered would be going ahead albeit it in a Covid safe way. At this time parkrun was still cancelled. I started to train and make the most of the less busy roads. One Saturday in March I went out on my bike to do a 30+ mile training ride. I had been out and pushed hard and was on my way home feeling great as I had such a great ride. I was just over a mile away from home when a car driver pulled out on me as I was travelling downhill. The driver did not give way and did not see me and I hit the car. I feel no malice towards the driver. It was an accident. yes, it was her fault but she made a mistake - we all make mistakes.
My right thigh took the full impact off the collision and broke on impact on the wing of the car. I was then tossed over the handlebars and on to the bonnet where my head and helmet went through the windscreen. The car still travelling forwards propelled me on to the roof where once realising what had happened the driver slammed on the brakes and I then shot off the car and hit the tarmac breaking both shoulders.
A passerby accessed my ICE details on my phone after calling 999 and rang my partner Rich. Air ambulance was in attendance but I was deemed safe enough to travel by road ambulance. One in hospital I was put in traction to be operated on the next day. The next day I had an IM nail inserted inside my femur (yep right up the middle of it) as it was so badly broken. They move the kneecap and hammer it into the centre of the bone.
Soon after the op I was screaming in pain, they couldn't find a pulse, my leg was going a funny colour I had an extremely rare complication called compartment syndrome. It is so rare in an upper limb that the hospital UHCW had only ever seen it once before. They had to cut my leg from knee to hip and leave it as an open wound for 4 days to save me from needing amputation. 4 days later they stitched me back up. By the following Saturday I was allowed to leave the hospital but could not walk, I couldn't get upstairs and my leg refused to bend. I spent the next following weeks and months learning to walk again, gaining strength, weekly physio that is still ongoing to this day. I had to use a commode as I was unable to get upstairs in my own home. I suffered terrible flashbacks that are also still ongoing.
I had to have another operation to make my leg bend and spent another 3 days in hospital
News that parkrun was returning came and I was back volunteering on my crutches, walking round it when I was able to. Week in week out I continued to volunteer and bring exercise to our many runners. I help set up the new parkrun at Hasting High school in Burbage through all of this too. I Also helped set up a junior parkrun in Coventry. I volunteer at juniors most Sundays too.
Despite them telling me I would never run again I am determined to do so."